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Do you need to have therapy?

Many people find that online therapy provides them with a good and effective means of recovery from all types of emotional problems, including stress and anxiety, low self-esteem relationship and confidence issues. 

In fact, many people suffering from a wide range of psychological difficulties finds the help and support they need with online therapy. 

To realize its benefits, you need to find a therapist that makes you feel cared for and respected as a person in your own right. A therapist should create a safe therapeutic environment, which is supportive and non-judgemental to help you work through your problems.

A good online therapist

A well-tuned online therapist or offline therapist can help you make changes to your life at a pace that suits you. A good therapist will never tell you how to live your life; they will only act as a catalyst to change what you want or need to change. 

No therapist can do the work for you. To benefit from the therapy, you must be an active participant and take responsibility for making any changes you want to make. Some peoples’ therapy is very successful, and others only find limited success.

How therapy can help

People sharing their thoughts and feelings with a compassionate, respectful, and understanding person can experience deep emotional healing. The old saying a problem shared is a problem halved is absolutely true within the right environment.

Therapy can be a safe place to express your inner worries by allowing yourself the time to talk to someone about a distressing problem or experience and keep it confidential. Sometimes we need to talk to someone who is neither friend nor family, independent and unbiased, and trained to listen and be objective.

Building awareness

Therapy can help people become aware of and then change problem behaviours and address maladaptive thinking. The therapist can usually help you to build an awareness of what is really going on. Before helping you get to the origin of your problems, maybe they need to challenge your perceptions and beliefs and promote positive changes in your life.

Most people in therapy are looking for help and support with everyday concerns: Dealing with relationship problems and work stresses and sexual issues. Others turn to therapy after finding themselves in challenging times, experiencing a divorce or coming to terms with a death or terminal illness.

What therapy is best for me?

    • Which type of therapy should you use?
    • Is one kind of therapy better than the others?
    • What type of therapy is best for my problems?
    • Is an online therapy service suitable for my needs?

There is a vast range of different therapy types in use today and many styles and concepts surrounding therapy. It just adds to the complex and confusing mix available. Some therapists insist that the method they use is better than any other.

Still, the truth is that any particular type of therapy is nothing more than a way of working, and one way is much the same as another in that they aim to achieve the same result. What therapy is going to be the best choice will depend on what the person thinks is the best choice for them.

How effective is therapy

How effective the therapy is going to be will depend on the clients’ ability to make the changes required and the strength of the therapeutic relationship, and the therapist’s ability. This will generally be more important than what type of therapy is actually used.

Online therapy services with video sessions over Skype are a new option to consider or stick with traditional face-to-face therapy. Today there are more choices and more opportunities.

If you have a type of therapy in mind, start by researching it and find out as much as possible, you then have a better idea of what you want to try. There are just too many kinds of therapeutic modalities to list here without it becoming overwhelming and complicated.

Is therapy any better than medication?

We live in a world of quick fixes. Whatever your problem is, you can find a pill for this or that, or we find a way that seems to help at the moment but if continued could go on to make even bigger problems for you in the future, like when people who start drinking alcohol or take drugs to cope with feelings of stress and anxiety, they find that in time it often leads on to serious life-changing social and economic implications and/or acute health problems.

Antidepressants can help

Antidepressants can help reduce the effects of short term emotional or other psychological problems. Still, they should not be used as a permanent treatment unless you have a major mental illness like bipolar or schizophrenia, and your doctor will advise you in such cases.

Pills have their own benefits and some problems related to side effects and long-term treatment costs. For some people, the prescribed medication did not have any positive or noticeable effect, but it has also helped others live a normal life.

Always seek medical advice before stopping or changing your medication.

The long-term use of prescribed drugs used in mental health can in some cases lead to addiction, or it even makes the original symptoms worse, including elevated anxiety levels or weight gain. Medication, if it does work quite often, only hides or smooths over the real problem, it can help the person cope or reduce the ability to feel but does not generally help to solve the underlying issue; this can mean that the problem will return in week’s months or years from now or the person will need to take more and more pills leading to a lifelong prescription.

With online counselling

Therapy can provide a safer alternative treatment to drugs for most emotional problems and a good supplemental option to help them recover while using the medication.

With online counselling or face to face therapy sessions, it can be possible to identify the root causes of the symptoms and find a long-term solution. Still, therapy can sometimes be a difficult and complex road, and it will usually need an elevated level of commitment and perseverance for it to work.

The amount of difficulty will depend on the problem involved. Medication can be an attractive option needing no real commitment, other than remembering to take it, but it does not always stop the problem. It usually only makes it bearable to live with.

No promises 

It must be said that therapy does not always work, and no therapist can promise a successful outcome. They can only try to help; most of the responsibility for any therapy being successful is the client’s ability to make the necessary changes needed. If the person cannot or does not want to change, no therapist can help them.

With therapy, it can be possible to find the tools for transforming your life for the better. And go on to build the future life you want for yourself and your loved ones, and you will be mentally and emotionally healthier and more able to cope with what life sends your way.

Misguided ideas about therapy

Some people have the view that therapy is for the weak-minded or that the only people who have therapy are mentally unstable, it’s an opinion normally held by people who are either totally ignorant of mental health issues or secretly know they need therapy but are terrified of having therapy and cover their own fear by overcompensating in their disapproval, a bit like a person who is gay being loudly anti-gay to try and hide the truth from themselves and others.

It often takes courage.

People who enter therapy should be highly respected. It can take a lot of courage to talk about challenging and upsetting personal experiences they have had to deal with in life; talking about their issues can evoke powerful feelings and difficult, painful memories. Although sometimes difficult, therapy can also be an enriching and healing experience that can totally change someone’s life. On occasions, there will be pain before gain, but that’s not always the case, especially if the problem is not acutely traumatic.

Finding a good therapist enhances your therapy.

When looking for a therapist to help you make changes to or explore events in your life, you need to take your time and make a viable choice, not a first choice. If you are receiving therapy without contributing financially, you probably don’t have any choice in who you see.

But if you can afford to talk to a private therapist, you should not pick the first one you find. The therapist you choose will have a considerable influence on the end result; it does not mean that a good therapist will make therapy successful, but having a therapist that you do not feel comfortable working with is certainly not going to help you at all.

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